weddingss--girls--boys!

Wedding bells wedding bells Weddingszzzz all the way!!
recently most of my cousins got married………The thing which surprised me is How can any one get so easily acquainted with a total STRANGER… he/she BOTH!? Coming to me I need ages to get friendly or share things with some X . I am kinda introvert and I need time to gel well with people around me. BUT if I gel well…I am sure it lasts long! So were many others whom I know…but when it comes to FUTURE wife/hubby how can they gel well so FAST ???:) sharing each and every minute thing they do..keeping track of each and every minute of their day….Sending LUV SMSES …emoticons….(kisses hugs hearts so on ) wearing each others favourite colored dresses / Jewellery eating or drinking each others Favourite drink….So on so forth !! OH MY GOSH!! Doesn’t it get boring at one point of time….I Thought to my self…then I again thought to my self MAY BE IT Gets boring to others but not to them..Infact it gets interesting day by day and thrilling I GUESS!!---provided they enjoy each others conversation….

I have seen people practically Showing their emotions with out hiding the slightest of them And publicly displaying AFFECTIONS! Well I didn’t approve it much but I don’t know at that juncture how I would behave :P will I be totally dreamy or stay in my senses… AM Seriously not sure of it. When it comes TO DREAMS I am a day dreamer and I can beat most of them in this..SO !! may be I would behave in the same way :P :P :Pone of my friends stores his wifes name as sweetu…They Are not even engaged :-o OOPS!! I thought so much LOVE already…What’s this magic? Is it REALLY love ??or affection generated out of compulsion of getting committed / married! Am not sure. What ever it is its sweet I guess…TO SOME Extent…I have also seen boys who practically get pissed off by such stuff ….The girl calls him “hi jaaanu Dear wassup ? get up na its already 8 (Few girls express a lot U C :P) “ then he controlling his urge to puke responds “Yaaaaa am getting up (WITH A PAUSE and lot of effort) DEAR!!” Yeah it doesn’t come naturally to all…it takes time for few To address even the dear dear sugary lolly sweetus like jaanu deary rolu polu or whatteva!!

May be its needed to act to make others r happy though not so content with one self or may be its better To be the way U R I am not sure….My mom often says…theres no harm in expressing emotions …as it will be repaid one day or the other!So I follow it—I fail at times and I am not sure about the results…One of my very close friends was getting married..She was not sure if she has to marry that man As nothing was working between them No common talks..No common choices…If he likes techie stuff…she likes discussing movies…TV..news etc…If she likes tea …he hates it..if she likes eating out he prefers home made Cuisines….He is not able to woo her…she was not able to impress him…They hardly speak to each other….I mean if she talks to me in ph for 30 min …with her would be its just for 10—15min…She was very much worried as to WHAT she is going to do to about their relation….Will she be happy at all!? Then I told her the same thing she told me Few years back!! That “ You have no choice to select your parents and like each and every aspect of theirs..U like few things dislike few but u gotta stay with them…U get used to it…and above all U LOVE each other so u can undermine minuses and MAGNIFY plusses “ ahem sounds heavy!! But that’s the only thing I could tell to her at that point of time….NOT sure she followed it or not….

The main thing is marriage shouldn’t be at toss…so ITS better u behave In a manner he likes u to or she likes u to---Not always but when u feel like its needed then…………Adjustment in a new relation is very much needed by either a boy or girl or its perfect if its by both …Its an age old thought that when it comes to adjustment…Girls top in it being more understanding compassionate ..sensitive and patient…but times have changed…GIRLS need their space these days They cant act or adjust always…EMOTIONS are not selfless anymore ..When U Give U demand…They have freedom of thought…equally knowledgeable and equally or may be more hard working…..they also are confident enough and they also get tired…They also act the way they like most of the times…Doesn’t mean they don’t give a damn about their husband or boy friend…but When they GIVE a DAMN they expect the same in return!!

Coming to LOVE Vs Arranged marriage ..its an age old topic and I don’t wanna waste space for discussing it…Its just that….Commitment compromise and adjustment is needed in both,,,,

My perspective is When things go wrong (Not being pessimistic ) but things often go wrong,,,,,so when things go wrong Arranged marriage is less painful than love marriage as in the first case the person is total stranger to U! and u give him some time…BUT perfection is expected in a LOVE MARRIAGE (in most of the cases )……Again its my perspective…different people have differing opinions!!

Many people have misconception that ITS BOYS WHO spend money and girls sit and have fun!!but I say a big NO NO for this….YES BOYS do open wallet many times…and don’t ask about ph bills…….its like a mini Ramayana The size of it..but if a boy doesn’t call one day (After the girl gets used to it) a confused hypertensed Silly girl calls him 100s of times…wondering y he did not call,,,,,Now a days (I HAVE SEEN) girls also make equal number of calls no matter whatever the size of the ph bill is….and they also do spend if THEY EARN! Times have changed so is a girl….

It might be a controversial statement but girls are HIGHLY emotional beings on the EARTH but no Tom Dick Harry can steal their desire to BE PRACTICAL if they really wanna be practical….They are meant to be emotional…After being highly emotional Don’t make them bend towards practicality ….coz its tough for her to come back to her emotional self!! A girl though physically weaker species mentally Unusual strength she has got! ---gifted by GOD! Many situations which a boy THINKS he can handle but cant….Girl handles them easily even if she is unaware she can actually I have seen a boy who forgot having head bath regularly and got used to booze and smoke for ever after a girl ditched him and I have seen a girl who cried to her hearts content but got ready in a nice dress after a week and went to a movie with girl friends… AGAIN Its not about who wins ….there are differing TYPES in both species…its again a open question if the boy who boozes is really sad ? or if the girl who is going to movie is really HAPPY!!?!?---Not sure!!!

Anyway The magic has begun BETWEEN x and Y long back when the wedding got fixed with all the romantic talks chats….and still continuing… I hope it doesn’t wear off FOR LONG!! I am still clueless as to how it starts and how both are Attached to each other SO FAST!!--> I was just so excited seeing the sparks and joy in their eyes….GOD bless all THE couples and love birds! And I pray they have a FRUIT FUL Life

Girls are very sensitive about relations…..So are boys !!:)am not forming a anti boy committee here….BUT I just want both to stick to it……..WITH out playing a win/Lose game…Make it a win win situation and spend Happy TIMES!!:)

signs and GOD's Science!!!

I was born in aries!

I heard it’s when god created humans from fairies,

God used his magic wand and gave me twinkling eyes!

Made me believe He will take care of all my worries!!

Taurus likes good fight

Fight for what they want!

God told them you are one of a kind,

Be strong but not very to leave anyone and everyone behind!!

God filled love in a Gemini’s heart,

Asked to share it with every one without moving apart !

Forget forgive and lend heartful smiles,

Makes you God reduces the miles!!

Cancer Leo are the stronger lot,

Stars made beings of all sort !!

Random they are but creative and passionate!

Simple they are and at times Ornate !!!

Virgo Libra and Scorpio are a part of this culture,

All are the star signs with different traits!

Genes load the behavior but environment triggers,

Stars decide our features but not the Future!!

Sagittarius Capricorn Aquarius and Pisces,

All are Gods people not different races!

The soul poured in is same though various faces!!

Stars up above the world so high form all these signs,

Below the shining stars we love each other under god’s science!!

----------------By afshan---------------

HAPPY nu YEAR twenty-----ten :)

This time newyear was pretty Good...reminded me of school days after long ...i celebrated with neighbors (all who r from our phase) of apartment....At first i felt it would be DAMN boring but some how i thoroughly enjoyed all the moments....I had my family and few new and old friends whom i made here....We all gathered at about 8O'clock at the camp fire...

which was whoaaaa so warm and i felt good:).....the temperature neared 10 so camp fire relieved me....we danced around the camp fire for all Old and new numbers..both telugu and hindi....soon even elders joined..
IT was real fun when hesitant papa was moving slowly as if its ringa ringa roses...:) hahha....after camp fire there were games for children ...Running race...and fashion show for them...Games for couples..which was funny!fashion show for youngsters...we had dinner which is not delicious...but we were not much bothered about it.....as the fun was more important there......

The game i liked most is ...every ones smiles were measured and people with Broadest smiles were awarded THE WIDEST smile ! award :) mine was 4cms but many had a 4.5 smile.Moon on top of the apt looked gorgeous and fabulous the last moon for 2009:) dramatically was more bright


DJ's songs were fundoo..............which had even the latest hottest RINGA RINGA(telugu song) too...People danced wild and mad being not so hesitant about their age gender and size :)

This is the opportunity to dump stress a REAL platform where no one judges U!! IT was 11:50 when count down started and finally it was 12:00 whoaaaaaa 01/01/2010..................NEWYEARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRrrrr we shouted so loud --->HAPPY NEWYEAR that i got a sore throat and no regrets on it!!:)

soon there were crackers exploding ...after fireworks we had a Cake cutting.....ceremony (Cant be avoided...a newyr ritual)///i personlly dont like having cake AFTER midnight during newyears and birth day parties! but U CANT AVOID .................. after hugging and wishing each and every one in hydi style i should say WE DEPARTED!! THE MUSIC from DJ Was so loud our windows were shaking..........i feared window panes may break.............Fun continued till after 1Oclock....... I slept off after answering 2 3 ph calls I felt good happy and rejuvenated as this kind of celeb was after long long long time....may be after my school days!! i was not so enthu about it but gradually felt GOOD I DINT MISS IT!! so friends a very HAPPY NEWYEAR TO U ALL!! HAV A BLESSED 2010 ahead keep smiling:)

Heart(Dil ki baate dil hi jaane)

My heart..It was never strong,

Now it stopped thinking whats right and whats wrong!

is it weakness or strength to hear your song...?

which plays in my eyes ears and mind for LONG!!

Heart it cant be judged,

Coz its from another world!!

Heart has no control,

As I am not aware what is its poll...

it goes on and on and on....

Till the day I am gone!!!

Journey 'f LifE

“Oh My GOD!!” What’s that ALMIGHTY screech?!

Granny Shouted “baby is perfect” Feels like god is in reach!!

A baby born, isn’t it very painful?

But its Gods gift A moment so wonderful!!

Mom told “pray to God” He gifted U life,

I asked then why is it filled with all this strife?!

Mom told God is up there watching You,

When ever I was happy I believed its true!!

The more good U r the more God will guide U,

I was good and wished more and more as I grew!

Days passed and years, seasons Crossed..Rain summer and Drops of Dew,

Among what all I wished I could get only few!!

Soon I realized Life is not always a guided tour,

Sometimes a grassland Some times a moor!

There are joys, worries , sorrows and some times a lure,

When I questioned “Is this God’s territory”? I was answered God exists for sure!!

At times you feel Life is a jest,

Still try living life to the "fullest"!

Life is short and you are here a honored “guest”

God is just your father U gotta deal with others too the worst and the Best!!

God guides and trains you at the first,

Then takes his time to rest!!

Pursuit of happiness is the mantra to pass the test,

Even though at the end You feel Life is a journey with desires unfulfilled and Incomplete quest!!

In the memory of A MAN who rocked!

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i thought there are two categories of people

1.)People who don’t mind if any one likes them or not. They live a life and pass away

2.)people like them make People Like Us LIKE THEM!!

But then i realised there is one more unique category who WIN people’s hearts immensely amazingly whom some believe is EQUAL to almighty....I felt our late YSR falls IN THIS CATEGORY. I knew he was a mass leader....There is good and bad in Every Politician...POWER spoils many....But when good overweighs bad !! bad can be ignored..YAY in full spirits it can be........A man for poor,..a man of honour...a MAN WITH forever smile stuck to his face...A man who smiles at all the HUGE problems and finds a smooth way to come out of it...heard a lot about this LEGEND ....heard a lot particularly from these 3days...the 3 horrible days for the state of A.P. for their Chief minister met a horrible death . A death worth to be written in RED LETTERS in the history pages .....The chopper in bad condition ..the heavy rains and The security personnel who were less alert ,,,,There are many reasons....which lead to this most sinister death of this century ...which can be the worst nightmare for any leader any normal human for instance....Its horror to imagine a person burnt in mid air charred and head crushed beyond recognition.....!!the other four people also met with same MISFORTUNE.....a great loss for their families ..a great loss for state ...loss for nation...For one whole day the whole state glued to Televisions as if a cricket match was going on.......to watch whats gonna happen to their favourite leader...it was almost like a suspense movie....drawing conclusions now and then..praying for his safety...hoping HE RETURNS bubbling with FULL LIFE miraculously as if in A MOVIE but alas........LIFE is already planned by some one up there...The day the chopper didn’t reach its destination........the search started late......People started praying...every one forgot about the ganesh Procession,...there were namaaz offered in masjids..prayers in churches temples so that their favourite leader comes back safe...........I felt astonished seeing this immense love...unintentionally my heart started pleading GOD....that this MAN SHOULD COME BACK!! A man who is loved so much by so many shouldn’t just become A puff of smoke in air.......shouldnt meet such a dreadful end atleast..but i guess God has his own ways..and WHEN it comes to decisions GOD pays deaf ear!! to peoples Wishes.............Our YSR like just a star fell down on top of a hill totally burnt ...seems recognised only by his bald head and rings to his hand...

A man so devoted to his PEOPLE....so devoted towards his work...A man who can be said less religious when compared to many OTHER LEADERS...is GONE!HE didn’t do injustice to other castes or religions like Few of our leaders do....a converted Christian yet had empathy towards all religions and beliefs ....reflected secularism to an extent and showed sympathy towards the poor!! seems before every meeting / every visit to a public place he jots down :”TO BE DONE” things in his notepad...and stays prepared..keeps on revising them...he might be doing the same thing before he met THIS horrible end.....how painful that split second would have been when he realised...the time has come...... HOPE didn’t die when it was revealed the chopper was identified by commandos..PEOPLE started pleading god,,,CM should be safe....the helicopter must have landed some where...there are even food and beverages in the chopper....facilitating a better stayal....BUT everything was in vain and it was soon informed..CM IS NO MORE!! The mournful state of the WHOLE state couldn’t be watched,....i felt shattered when i saw many people mourning crying out Loud for their Lovable leader ...few still hoping he will come back..some how he will return....my heart sank watching every one ...foolishly hoping ....IF ONLY THE TIME TURNS BACK...and he doesn’t start at all.....I DONT HAVE MUCH Knowledge about politics...i don’t know much about WHOS WHO....i only know PEOPLE loved him immensely...madly ...so much MAD That....24 people committed suicide unable to bear this death ...nearly 107 people died of heart attacks!! It’s like a massacre some Unseen power did ...some hands... evil hands plunged the state of AP and destroyed the peace and harmony....I PRAY NO ONE further dies......The fate GOD Has written is enough...why is the count of deaths increasing so much...???!! “OH GOD!! Please prove U R THERE”!!! amen............

People who died in a similar fashion

1.) Subhash Chandra bose whose flight crashed in Taiwan..Whose death is still a mystery

2.) Sanjay Gandhi was killed in a glider ...in 1980 in a crash

3.) Madhav Rao Scindia, a senior Congress leader and a former cabinet minister, was killed in a plane crash Sep 30, 2001

4.) G.M.C. Balayogi former lok sabha speaker in a chopper crash March 3, 2002

5.) S. Kumaramangalam, a Congress leader, died in a plane crash in 1973 near New Delhi.

6.) O.P. Jindal, also a noted industrialist, and Surendra Singh were killed when the chopper carrying them went down near Saharanpur in Uttar Pradesh March 31, 2005.

7.) Saundarya (FAMOUS telugu actress) who was campaigning for elections was killed in 17^th apr 2004 in a similar crash

Few were lucky who missed Such death... such crashes...few had so rotten luck that they met such a death ...the people like above.....Its still an open question when people will get more alert...when we will stop Using outdated choppers or choppers repaired for hell lotta times...planes made of cheaper spare parts...with less security equipment and less technology!! INDIA MOVING fast in many fields ...still meets with such mishaps....Hope people spend money for right things at right places......GIVE The best to the nation and ...avoid making a history like this.....

YSR used to announce that a political career for any individual should end at 60...A man who believed YOUTH should enter in to politics...sadly for him it ended in this demolishing way god has planned for him...:( I bow for a man who met his death while servicing his people ...the state and nation as a whole...he was born on 8-7-1949...just completed 60yrs last month.

May his soul and the souls of the Folks who accompanied him rest in peace...!!!

“Salute to All”

HARD TO BELIEVE UR NO MORE Dear YSR!! U live in our hearts... ur smile will haunt for a long time :(

SHUT UP & BOUNCE!!

Shut up and bounce

If ur thinking am gonna write DOSTANA songs lyrics.or about the movie silence of the lambs :) --.UR wrong...its just the title I GAVE and the image as they are very apt.SHuT UP AND BOUNCE!! WOWWWOWW!!very apt.
Have U ever tried to open a bingo or kurkure packet with the help of ur sharp canines coz UR neatly manicured nails will get spoiled...and the next scene was the scattered chips all over...Have U ever tried to not sip but drink all of the pani puri ka pani in ONE GO coz its irresistible and had a series of dry coughs later...have U ever tried asking Your neighbour how is she??! When her son eloped with her girl friend and her husband came drunk dialy night.....?Have U ever tried...asking your project manager Give me the schedule for the project so that I can plan accordingly when things are going in a very random and disorganised fashion ..with out proper time lines and proper estimations....Have U ever tried warning your bus driver who drives DEADLY rash as if he can meet a deadly accident any minute...who pays deaf EAR TO U DIALY!!....HAVE U ever tried doing all these things...TRY doing and U will understand hOW Apt it is my title...I mean how apt it is TO SHUT UP and let things happen and bounce...as things wont happen PROPER when u try doing them in UR OWN STYLE OR ur own way which may seem apt to U but not to others....U may feel U can easily open BINGO with teeth...but it cant give better results always..U may feel panipuris pani is TASTY! But it leaves a bad acidic stomach for that day ............Ur showing UR CONCERN towards UR neighbour...but she may respond fiercely....UR PM may answer..Get uSED to the ways of this proj...THIS IS NOT UR PREVIOUS project..very curtly....Ur bus driver may look at u as if he is looking at dialy doordarshan 7Oclock news when U board the 7:30bus and warn him...he drives double rash regardless of ur continous THREATENS of complaints,....after all U R not the HEAD of the DC..or transport head atleast....So when we continuously do such things how ever strong we wish to do..we END UP WiTH 0 results...or Minimum results....but not satisfactory.....Let me jump in to the main THING I wanna discuss here...
OFFICE is a place bustling and jostling with VARIETY of people..HELL of a variety i should say,,,no where ON EARTH U WILL feel so many diversified characters....Some smile at U as soon as U look at them...as if its instantaneous and ur just waiting for their SMILE THE WHOLE DAY!! Or the first thing in the morning...U Dont realise WHO IT IS .....HE smiles and leaves the place also...Thats the routine with many....we don’t even know the names...we just shut up and bounce;) Some don’t smile HOW HARD U TRY!! U laugh loud at ur own joke....u make a funny face...U tickle...They don’t smile...U prickle...They don’t react....THEY R LIKE THAT,,,,angry young mEN....BAChAN category......U SHUT up and bounce there too,,,,,then comes a category which smiles wide broad and bright when they need uR HELP!or want their work done: Jamuna (with all 32 teeth flashing LIKE IN THE HAPPY DENT AD ): “Aakash can U just add these extra points to this estimates document and leave...can u please finish this by eod....coz we hav a sudden client review coming up,......”...aakash happily does it IF JAMUNA is a pretty woman and is little dishearteaned if she looks awful....Some folka have a disconnected look...all their senses are disconnected.their body language is poor...they look at something else and talk to U! They smile vaguely looking at the white board behind U! Or some pen or book in ur hand ....or some thing else...disconnected senses SYNDROME! I call it....i exactly don’t know the reason..but they want to avoid u! With all possible ENERGY they have................I ONCE wondered and turned behind to see whats written on white board which is so funny that is making him laugh............but then realised...ITS DSS problem.....Some people try to fall under the rude category! Don’t kno why again here.........but they try maintaining a rude...shrewd LOOK!! A haphazard style of saying hi and an idiotic smile...ThEY feel its REALLY KEWL!! But don’t realise its really “A big fool” who is doing all this...Some are real good at flirting.......THEY Flirt ALMIGHTY level...they even tend to finish UR work....just to be in UR good books............or BECOme a hero for that day atleast........but poor chaps don’t realise they r being used.....!!Some flirt with A GLORY!! They r obvly the confident lot...who r handsome and hav little of brain...ITS tuff damn tuff to make them stand with two feet on the ground...They are almost always in skies...on cloud 9...sometimes may be on 10 and 11 and they feel all the single or almost single girls or some times even married ones FALL FOR THEM ! with out any SHAK! In their dimaags ;) When they meet a girl who doesn’t pay attention they name her “weirdo” “Rude”,,,,,when the girl pays attention (AFTER ALL HANDSOME looks & brains are many a times things to get tempted) ...They respond “Hey so much attention on me these days with a wink”
They feel they deserve talking any thing which can make THEM superior ....thats the whole intention...NOW I will stop the boys category for a while and start off with GIRLS...Gals gals ...always a strange topic...GALS make friends very easily and break up also damn easily!! Sometimes a common project, a common language , a common category (MARRIED or unmarried)or even a common enemy can make them REAL GOOD friends!! And there can be no REAL GOOD REASON! For break UP!!it can range from not wearing a saree even after continous requests of UR other girl friend ---It doesn’t matter whether u like wearing or not...or any other blah blah reason(YES there R Such people..dont get shocked)....Girls DONt drool over BOYS!! But a girl can become UR StroNG enemy when boys pay attention TO U! Particularly if she is MORE GOODLOOKING...and more......ADORABLE;)...but still boys stick to U!.............(this is the A1 reason....when a girl suddenly lessens her conversation to hmm oh is it...and just answers UR ASKED questions....)...A girl...can even stop talking to U! When there are N number of girls talking to U and she definitely doesn’t want to be the N+1!!------U get busy with Your work....lately...and become little frustrated with new mode of work ...new people ....new place...new installations..new bugs....new time stretches...all New which all face....but when U try meeting up Old friends after a long GAP its all new..U end up being asked...”is there any reason for this meeting....?” initially U can say just wanted to meet u All!!
But such a stupid emotional answer is not right FOR EVERY one and every time........U r questioned the same thing or responded a BLUNT NO! With out being given proper reasons for not able to make it........YES IT is taken THAT u HAVE Avoided them for two long months...and didn’t bother to inform or respond....so the same tit for TAT!! Huh!! I know whats playing in UR mind now”SHUT UP And BOUNCE.....baby bounce baby!! “”:-)

TBC Soon