Sunday, January 10, 2016

2015 Roundup- "A sheer roller coaster ride!"

The year 2015 was quite a roller coaster ride for me, as I shifted my city and multiple jobs. It taught me too many lessons which can never be forgotten and it also gave an insight in to my heart and helped me understand myself better with each passing day. I will try to maintain the tone of this post not too emotional and the length appropriate :) The year started on a high note, when Imran (my husband) and I decided to shift to Hyderabad from Bangalore. I was actually low but was feeling high as well, as new things make life less mundane! I was also high as I will be near to mom , dad and low as I would have to leave the city I loved the most. I will list down the major events of 2015 in my life!

High Points and Low Points
  •  I celebrated Newyear 2015 after visiting God's Own country Kerala - Wayanad and wrote the below lines when the clock struck 12:oo A.M. on Jan 1st 2015 - "A new path is ahead of us. We may not be able to predict to where it will lead us but we know we have to walk it anyway and embrace it and not run away. Wish you all courage, strength, love, optimism, good will, health and fun while you tread along it ! Happy newyear 2015 to one and all" Well it is the same for any newyear. The trip was beautiful and rejuvenated me for the big move to Hyderabad

Taken at soochipara falls - Wayanad
  • Hyderabad- The land of Biryani and Haleem and the land where mom, dad and bro live did pull me towards it. I was glad but at the same time was feeling confused as I hate being in midst of too much crowd and too many known people. Fortunately I was and am not a part of many social gatherings but still the very thought, spreads the phobia instantly in my head, due to various reasons, the major one is in the snapshot below :) , My dislike towards "variety" of people and liking towards books and my cosy corner, only increased with each day. Sadly I became more unsocial but I became much better , because who else can be better friends than books ? The best book I read in 2015 is Life of Pi , which is worth a 1000 friends !
source : here
  • I joined a new job in Hyd in Feb, and it took it's natural course of time to get acclimatized. It was neither easy nor tough. Started missing my Bangalore office friends as each day felt more lonely. I finally got used to the place, did well in the job and received accolades and managed to get bonded with the team.My Doctor appointments increased due to carpel tunnel syndrome and other general recurrent health issues and naturally I had to mention this at work, but I felt blessed as most of the team was co-operative and polite. They had that rare attitude which wants the co-worker to do the work and go and I feel proud to say that my work always spoke for me. My timings in office, the energy or enthusiasm were measured ofcourse, but never scrutinized a lot, and I was at ease even with tight schedules and micro management only because I loved my work and they knew that fact! I slowly started forgetting Bangalore.
  • A big personal blow which happened in 2015, is the breakup of a loved one with his spouse. I visualised how the marriage was broken and what all lead to it and was totally shattered. It still shocks me whenever I revive what all happened and when I keep hearing or seeing what all is happening. It taught me a big lesson, that a sweet smile, education and a beautiful face are not good enough reasons for a marriage. It is very tough to choose the right person specially in India where many people go with the tide and try to work on their broken relationships much later and fail. I appreciate the guts of the person who decided to file a divorce. A loud applause for making the decision to restart the life, because it doesn't make sense to live on broken remains with bruised hearts! My prayer for 2016 is that honesty and truth should eventually win. I want the hearts of all my loved ones who are facing the brunt of this broken relationship to be repaired. I want them to use their hearts again and feel good. When  I think of them, I always remember the below quote from the movie - Home alone and for those who have caused pain, their acts are their own curses !
source : here
  • Expect the unexpected, I had to leave the job after 6-7 months due to travel plans to Europe and the conveyance issues to office, which were hampering my health but the twist in the story is , I couldn't travel due to few unavoidable reasons and joined another renowned company much near to home after a short gap. I felt it is the solution to all my problems and I can save my time, energy and stay fit but God indeed is a gamer. My health problems increased in a month of joining the new office. The place was unfriendly, work was always random and unclear , and people somehow were too disconnected and I was cheated as there was a  mismatch between the written policies in joining forms and the actual baseless policies which were mentioned to me at work. I somehow failed when it comes to "attracting" the new manager and new people with my work. I always was and am passionate about the work I do but when the boss sucks and when Devil wears Prada doesn't work for long, I felt I should resign . The lesson I learnt is to never ever express the vulnerabilities at work place as the person to whom you report may seem empathetic in the start with the honey dripping tongue but has full potential to be an actual jerk. After too many arguments , verbal fights , and me escalating and mailing the other authorities , I left the job. I definitely am not enjoying whatever happened. It took me 10-15days to recover from the poison spurted out from crap mouthed person who is the sole reason for my resignation. I still am in shock and it will take time but this only made me more strong and when I will be back, I will be back with a bang. She (my manager) for a second seemed to have sucked the soul out of me like a dementor in Harry Potter. When demons invade from all directions , you are shaken and you loose confidence for a while but then you have to come back because you know your worth and no Tom , Dick , Harry can measure it in a span of a mere 2months. To hell with her and to hell with the people who lick her feet. I was never so glad just because of not seeing a person on daily basis! 
I want to suggest a book Big Leap by Gay Hendricks for all who are sailing in the same corporate boat and have to face rude bosses , unhealthy work culture and robotic people around you. I am sure it will definitely help you either to go with the flow or just amend or get rid of the mess!
source: here This is my all time favorite movie- Pursuit of Happyness. I feel so peaceful , when ever I watch it. I watched it after I resigned and regained the faith that I can conquer the world and I will not let any idiot tell me, what I can and can't do
  • Another major event for this year is my husband's visit to Belgium as part of his office assignment , for a period of good 3 1/2 to 4 months. Long distance made me miss him like never before and I can surely say it strengthened our bond. Minus point is that I did not plan to visit Europe and joined the new job which I left now :( Biggest learning is to not miss such opportunity if it knocks my door again. I was extremely tensed after the Paris terrorist attack as husband visited Paris just two weeks before the attack! I was quite edgy till he landed in Hyderabad and let out a sigh of relief as soon as I saw him in the airport. At the risk of sounding dramatic, I want to say that as soon as I saw him half of my worries vanished and my faith in myself got restored with him by my side again :) The bonuses from the trip are the Belgium chocolates , which taste heavenly & the gifts I got from Paris!
  • I travelled to Mumbai for just 2 days, to meet bloggers and attend an amazing event #BNLF (Blog Now , Live Forever). It gave many memories and made me glad as I travelled with a friend and this is something which I wanted to do from long. I went to watch a movie all alone. This must be a silly thing for many, but I fulfilled it after ages , so making it one of the milestones reached in 2015 :) . I visited Pondicherry, which is blissful due to the beaches, ashrams, and the general calmness around the city! It is the best place to unwind and relax away from the run-of-the-mill life!
Pondicherry Beach Sunrise
The loot from Belgium

At #BNLF Mumbai

Some desires and to-do's for 2016

I don't have any resolutions for 2016 as resolution sounds like a heavily loaded word, but I want to make a to-do list, strive to implement most of the stuff from this bullet list and yes, I do have some prayers!
  • To read more and to travel more. I have read around 10 books in 2015 and I definitely want to increase the number. I have challenged myself to 30 and I am really hoping to reach the goal as I am a slow reader.
  • My prayers for my loved ones. I really pray they get rid of the evil vibes which are bothering them from long. May the good omens be with you!
  • A prayer to not witness terrorism and be a part of some good change and do my bit, giving importance to burning issues and NOT BE PART OF ANY MUDSLINGING on trivial crap over social network.
  • To reduce the intensity of FaceBook usage and deactivate my account for a while. Only blogs keep me glued to FB or twitter but excessive usage damages brain at times. I am waiting to take a break from online socialising rituals and see less updates from the entire world :)
  • To work in a company only if I feel good about the change and not take any hasty decisions while taking up a job!
  • To blog more, cook more, learn new recipes, to continue the gym regime and to just be in good health, be happy and smile a lot.
A very Happy new year to one and all. Have a great 2016 Fellas!

What were your #Talesof2015 and do you have any plans for 2016? Do share :)

I’m sharing my #TalesOf2015 with BlogAdda

Thanks to Blogadda Team for this topic as it helped me to reopen my blog :)


  1. Afsan...nice sum up...wish all ur wishes come true ... Have an awesome year 2016 :)
    It was nice meeting u at #BNLF

    1. was nice meeting u too Aparna :)
      thanks and wish u the same

  2. Your blog reminds me this line - "Every person you meet is fighting a battle that you dont know about". I am so scared to even start writing about my 2015 but your post has convinced me to do it.. If I finish it, ill try sharing it with you ;)

    1. This me Noohi.. My blog name appeared which I never had a chance to start

    2. Hey Noohi

      Really felt good to see ur reply. Yep that line is awesome. It is true for all. Do finish ur post asap and SHARE WITH ME with out fail


  3. Happy 2016 to you Hope this year brings you lot of happiness and good health.

    Regarding expressing your views (including vulnaerabilities)at office. I know I have more work experience and in many countries. One thing I have learned is you never tell any one at work (i mean any one at work) what you really think about a particular issue or a person or any personal matter about you. Listen to everyone but trust NO ONE.

    1. That one, listen to everyone , trust NO ONE is absolute truth !
      Even after 8 + years of exp some times We tend to be emo fools !
      I shud have been more practical , more stubborn and least expressive. Anyway I learnt my lesson and engraved it on blog

      Thanks SG. Ur comment is helpful

  4. Ups and downs, that makes life Afshan.
    Wish you a very happy and successful 2016!
    May all your dreams come true!

    1. Thanks Indrani. Wish u the same and more trips and awesome Fotos !

  5. It's fine. There are bad people in every sphere or workplace. I've faced the situation at the work place with some idiots and those doing ugly politics. But, we gotta keep faith. Wish you a superb year filled with success and magic.

    1. Yes, thats the only permanent fact that there r bad ppl in every workplace. Thanks for ur wish Vishal !

      Wish u the same too

  6. Afshan. This post stirred me in so many ways. I am glad to be a part of your happy memories and needless to say, you are a prt of my happy memories too. I wish 2016 will be awesome for you and your family. May you have all the books, love and peace of mind that you have wish for :)

  7. Afshan. This post stirred me in so many ways. I am glad to be a part of your happy memories and needless to say, you are a prt of my happy memories too. I wish 2016 will be awesome for you and your family. May you have all the books, love and peace of mind that you have wish for :)

  8. Good and bad co-exist, but sadly good people face too many bad things and people too. I guess that's how we learn, isn't it! So Here's wishing you a Happy 2016.

    xoxo - Style.. A Pastiche - - Drop by some time!

  9. Very nice recap ! A sinusoidal year rather than a straight line year gives the feeling of living rather than just piling up years !

  10. Very few people can write all of this Afshan, it takes a lot of courage to just pen down your weaknesses and failures, analyse the reasons, and resolute to be a happier and healthier self. All of this is a learning. The mere fact that you wrote about it shows you will be back with a bang. Show it to the world girl!! Go for it..

  11. Nicely summed up. Ups and downs are part of our life. Wish you happy times and may your wishes come true. God bless! :)

  12. Certainly a lot of ups and downs in your life last year, dear! But, I can see how strong you have become! Here's hoping 2016 is your year!!

  13. I read about a few things you have mentioned here on Facebook. All I can say is - When the going gets tough, the tough get going . Hope 2016 is filled with success, health and happiness.

  14. W0W This blog attracts me a lot the information provided by you is nice thanks for sharing


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